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So I feel pretty unsupported and isolated right now. In conversation yesterday, I realized that I am the only RA on campus who is a queer woman in a relationship with another woman. I also happen to be an RA in a house of 16 straight women, half of whom are anti-gay, the other half who don’t understand why I bring my girlfriend over so often.
One of the reasons is that no matter how nice, living in a house full of straight women is suffocating, especially as the only RA in the building, having to teach them and be patient with their micro aggressions.
On top of that, despite having very supportive supervisors, it is exhausting to have to explain to them in detail how they can be supportive of me and why they need to the the expectations of what a “professional” RA is when the RA may make some of her residents uncomfortable by just being herself.
I understand it is my job to educate others and have them think critically about difference.
So I would love to hear from queer female RAs in relationships, but I would also love to hear from all RAs on how they deal with xenophobia directed towards themselves from their residents. This could be race, class, gender, sex, sexuality, ethnicity, national origin, ability, etc.
If someone could connect me with someone else I would very much appreciate it!!